Living with an alcoholic can be like living with a deceitful child and it can be very frustrating. If the alcoholic in your home is your spouse, you might be thinking about divorce. If it is your parent, you might be the chosen scapegoat and blamed for everything and are thinking about running away. This is normal. It isn’t anybody’s fault. An alcoholic needs help… not to be abandoned. An alcoholic is very deceitful about his or her drinking. If you ask the person if they are drinking, they will deny it until they are blue in the face. There is no point discussing the drinking and fighting about the drinking unless you and other family members have a plan to get he or she into a detoxification facility.
An alcoholic will never show up at public events and make up lies on why they weren’t there. However, they might be better off not embarrassing you with the public drunkenness and taking the chance in getting another D.U.I. Alcoholics cannot even tell themselves the truth about the fact that they have a problem, don’t expect them to be true to you until they are sober.
An alcoholic will do whatever it takes to get that next drink. They will lie, cheat, and steal until they have another drink. If you don’t go get the booze for them, then they will go get it themselves and risk their life trying to do it.
Living with an alcoholic is frustrating because you have to let them hit the bottom before they can be helped. You and your family might have to force he or she into a facility. Don’t worry about hurting their feelings, you are helping them in the long run. Don’t think that the alcoholic in your home hates you. They might when they are drunk, but they don’t really. They just know that you know they have a problem, but can’t face it themselves.
Being the child of an alcoholic can be difficult especially if you are blamed for everything. Don’t worry. Alcoholics always choose one of the kids to blame for the problems associated with their drinking. It is not really you and they really don’t hate you. It is the alcohol that has taken over their body causing them to be mean and deceitful.
Living with an alcoholic can be made a positive experience when you understand the disease, and seek to get your family member the help they need.