The Damaging Effects Of An Alcoholism Marriage

Alcoholism in a marriage will create an unstable marriage that will result in two unhappy adults. Alcoholism is an unhealthy disease and becomes even more unhealthy when it effects other people.

A person is considered an alcoholic when he or she cannot stop drinking. They rely on drinking to help them cope with their problems and get through the day. Sometimes they have to drink in the morning before they go to work. Sometimes they have to drink during the day to make it through. All alcoholics drink in excess and cannot stop drinking even if they make a promise to.

What Happens in an Alcoholism Marriage?

The tough thing about any disease, including alcohol, is that it effects lots of peoples’ lives. If you’re married to an alcoholic it will have a negative impact on your life as well as your children’s lives. Emotional and physical abuse and lack of sexual satisfaction are all consequences of being married to an alcoholic.

Alcoholic marriages are unstable. This is because the alcoholic is unstable. Constant binge drinking makes a person’s moods unstable. Sometimes they’re happy, sometimes they’re mean and sometimes they’re indifferent to the people around them. It’s very hard to maintain your side of the marriage if the person who’s in it with you can’t control their own moods.

Alcoholics also let alcohol take precedent over everything else in their lives. Instead of coming home from work and hanging out with the family, they may go to a bar. When they get home, they may be extremely drunk and just pass out rather than spending time with their kids or spouse.

This kind of behavior dissolves a marriage quickly. It’s extremely hard to talk to or interact with a person who appears that they don’t care about you or your life. This can have an extremely negative impact on sexual interaction in the marriage as well.

Being married to an alcoholic puts the sober spouse in an awkward position, especially if they have kids. Some spouses will ignore the problem, hoping it will go away. This also puts a division between the couple.

An alcoholic who is confronted may start lying about his or her habit. He or she also may become physically or emotionally abusive to the other spouse. Lying, abuse and lack of communication between the couple can lead to divorce.

What to do if Your Spouse is an Alcoholic

The sad truth is that no matter how hard you try to help your spouse with his or her addiction, they’re not going to change until they’re ready to admit they have a problem. Until that happens, you need to take care of yourself and your family. You do not want to become codependent, which means that you make up excuses for your spouse in order to protect them. Support groups, such as Ala-non, help families of alcoholics learn how not to be codependent on the alcoholic.

If you are being emotionally or physically abused in your alcoholism marriage, you need to physically separate yourself from your spouse. Just because you’re in an alcoholism marriage, doesn’t mean that you deserve to be mistreated.

5 thoughts on “The Damaging Effects Of An Alcoholism Marriage

  1. Ann

    I was married to an alcoholic/drug addict for 26 yrs. I initially tried to get him to stop but he would eventually begin again. I became very depressed and a friend sent me to Al Anon. It was the best thing I could have done for myself.I learned it was not my problem. I never hid his problem from our children, I told them that their dad was a good man who made bad choices.Thank God they do not drink or use drugs and now are very emotionally strong stable adults. My husband committed suicide in our home about a month ago after being wrecking the company truck and getting arrested for DUI. Sadly his siblings were always in denial of the severity of his problem they were never supportive to me and my kids when he was alive and certainly are not now. I did not have to choice of denial it was in my face for 26 yrs. It bothers me that they keep thinking that I exaggerated about his problem even now after what has transpired. I hope to eventually be able to say to hell with them, they could not have walked in my shoes for 6 months never mind 26 yrs.

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  2. Kandyse

    I got married last year to my friend. End the end i found out that he had a problem with alchol, he went to a rehab but it didn’t work he ws still drinking while he was in rehab. Then he went to another one it seemed to work until he got back home and then it went down hill. I got pregant and he constently drank through the whole thing. Before i had my daughter he promised that he wouldn’t drink anymore. Well he broke that promise, he started to drink around. When he drinks he leaves me and our child alone and goes out but don’t come back until the next day. I’m so fustrated with this does anyone have any advice??

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  3. ruth

    i am 48 yrs old my new husband is 54 we have been married now for going on three years, yes when our relationship started, when we were dating we would go out and have some drinks, he and i were both working so on the days we would date we did go out and have drinks, now that we have been married he has gotten laid off from a steel mill and doesnt look like it will restart, so now he sits at home while i work, and will drink sometimes i thought, but now when i brought it to his attention he now hides the empty beer bottles, it is hard to detect when he has been drinking but i can figure it out when he becomes emotional and he creates arguements with me about things i dont even say, then he will pack his clothes and leave and go to his grown up kids houses and stay will now contact me at all will not call, in the past i have pleaded with him to come back and talk things out, and he would but now i am sick of it, he has been gone for five days now and no contact, i think i will let him think about it this time, i do love him when he is not drinking he is a real good hearted person, but when drinking he becomes emotional and now i am the target, i dont want to divorce him i do love him but dont like being treated this way, dont know what to do?

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  4. Monique

    sober livings are very afordible. also see your state fro child care services . maybe leaving your child with another family member till she gets better or even day care. You can get state funded or sliding scale. Even a neighbor can watch the child. Much too dangerous for the child. Preschool is a great option too. Joan Matthews Larsen -Minnesota – vitamin therapy to regrow the damage of alcohol at health recovery center. Dr amen brain scan and Church ! 1800 new hope can help! AA and Alanon sponsors would be great help too!

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  5. Monique

    New Hope Hotline number at Crystal Cathedral 1 714-New Hope
    1-714-639-4673

    Volunteers to talk to you about you problems 24/7 and online at Crystal Cathedral.

    God Bless

    Your local Church has a lot of help including sometimes AA and Alanon info

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